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    Tell us something that changed your life for the better…
    Going to York University in Toronto. I went into university with high expectations, and York University has met all of them. I’m double majoring in Social Science and Sexuality Studies, the program of my dreams, I’ve been on student council, went to leadership retreats, been to several great events, met tons of amazing people, and I just got elected onto the student union. And the best part is that it’s only just begun! As I finish up my second year, I look forward to the many opportunities, challenges and rewards that lay before me. I feel so blessed to go to such an amazing institution. York University has completely changed my life for the better!
    If you could go back in time, what would you tell your child self?
    Be humble but hungry. Don’t wait for good things to come to you. Don’t wait to be inspired by some great event or divine force. Push yourself to the limit and fight for what you want. Never forget to be grateful for what you have in your life. Cherish every moment, both big and small. Learn from your mistakes and revel in your success. Don’t be afraid to speak up. Don’t be afraid to be yourself. Believe in yourself, for you are a marvel.
    What superpower most represents you?
    The power to heal. I consider myself a caregiver; people are my top priority and I will take the time to listen to my friends when they need it most, whether they need advice or a shoulder to lean on. I’m passionate about giving back to my community and standing up for what’s right. Everything I do, I do it with love in my heart and a smile on my face. I’ll do anything to help the lives of others, even if it only helps them a little bit. Heal the heart, heal the people, heal the world!
    What was your last dream about?
    My last dream was about Ellen DeGeneres being my mom. I got to hang out on her talk show and crack jokes with all her guests and we had a gay old time. Needless to say waking up and realizing Ellen was, in fact, not my mother was a rather depressing experience.
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    AKA, the site is up!

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    - Question submitted by Anonymous

  • Episode 104: Parents & Pronouns

    "My parents are super supportive, but they keep forgetting to use my preferred name and pronouns. What do I do?"

  • "Our son just came out to us as gay. We are religious, and while we accept and love our son for who he is, our beliefs tell us that he should not act on his desires. Our belief is that he should remain celibate, and we have communicated this with him... but he does not agree. How do we handle this?"


    - Question submitted Anonymously & Answered by Broderick Greer, Master’s of Divinity student

    Broderick Says:

    I am writing this response as a son, not as a parent. Since I do not have children of my own, it would be disingenuous for me to claim that I know what it is like to have a son or…

    Today on The Parents Project, Broderick Greer tackles an important question about religion, sexuality, and celibacy.

  • "How do I get creative? I just really wanna DO something, but I’m usually pretty clueless. I always end up dreaming about love instead of making myself useful. I’m determined to stop ths behaviour, but I was wondering if you have any concrete tips how to get, like… new ideas!"

    - Question submitted by Anonymous and answered by Kai Davis as a part of Everyone Is Gay: Second Opinions

    Kai Says:

    While I can’t tell you or teach you how to create new ideas, I can teach you to recognize them when they happen. I think that most people, including yourself, are under the impression that every kind of creative inspiration must be a gleaming beacon of profundity and wisdom. There is absolutely nothing wrong with dreaming about love. Love permeates through life in ways we cannot even fathom. There is value in exploring its vastness. Anything that makes us aware of ourselves, of others, the world around us, or even the spiritual word is useful and important art. There is no right or wrong way to be creative. Whatever ideas you find yourself thinking about, no matter what it is, can be interpreted as divine signals to explore those ideas through art.

    You must also let go of “newness.” There is no new idea, especially when it comes to art because art is humanity and our collective consciousness allows us to sometimes think and feel with the same hearts and minds. Every idea you have or I have has been thought of and executed before in a million different ways. That alone should be inspiring, not discouraging. Because now you have the opportunity to make us see something familiar in a unique way. And if you find yourself thinking about the same thing over and over, writing the same poem, drawing the same picture, do not feel disheartened. There are some things that I’ve written about many many times, because some things are always relevant. And some things just need to be written or drawn or sung about a thousand times because this is how we have to cleanse. “New” is just a bright shiny word. We should never dwell on it too long.

    If you want some concrete tips, I can tell you what I do to keep the juices flowing:

    1.      Stream of consciousness free writing. Sometimes you have thoughts in your head that are too stiff or quiet. I recommend writing everything and I do mean everything that comes to your mind for a few minutes each day. That means you don’t stop to think about what you’re writing, you don’t stop to process it and you definitely don’t erase, backspace, or scratch out anything. You’ll find thoughts and ideas you’ve been unconsciously ignoring. This exercise is like consciousness yoga.

    2.      Write down funny or interesting things you hear people say in conversation, in songs, on tv, on the radio, etc. We are often inspired in quick bursts and before we can turn that inspiration into art, it leaves are minds. Keeping a log of thought provoking things you hear day to day can be a great resource.

    3.      Just do it. Yeah I know, easier said than done. But honestly, sometimes creating is like ripping off a bandaid. You have to do it with confidence, quickness, and courage or the process is a lot more painful. Whenever I’m writing a collaboration poem with my friends sometimes we find ourselves writing notes and ideas for days for fear of not having a quality poem once we start. But then we always have to remind ourselves, that if we don’t just do it, we will have accomplished nothing.

    I really hope this helps.


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