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  • parentsproject:

    For Every Book Pre-Ordered, We Will Donate A Copy To A PFLAG Chapter!!!

    We think it is very important to get This is a Book for Parents of Gay Kids in the hands of people who need it most: parents of LGBTQ kids. So, we have an important announcement: 

    Through September 8th, every single pre-order for This is a Book for Parents of Gay Kids will be matched by our publisher, Chronicle Books, with a donated book to a local PFLAG Chapter!!!!

    All you need to do to help us is:

    1. Pre-order your copy before September 9
    2. Go to this link to make sure your pre-order is matched!!

    Let’s help get this book into the hands where it’s most needed.

    This is pretty amazing.
    Please share far & wide!!


    Dannielle & Kristin

    Important Reminder — just two weeks left to get these books donated by pre-ordering!! xo

  • "Hello! I am a white lady and I recently started dating a really wonderful, intelligent, and kind mixed-race lady. I like her SO much but I’ve noticed that I have no idea how to talk about race/feel a little guarded around her because I’m so worried I’ll say something offensive without realizing it. How can I be the best possible ally to her and learn to just fully be myself in this new relationship?"

    - Question submitted by Anonymous and answered by Kai Davis as a part of Everyone Is Gay: Second Opinions.

    Kai Says: 

    Firstly, your primary goal is on point. You definitely want to be yourself in any interracial relationship, platonic or not. I can’t even begin to tell you how irksome it is when a white person tries too hard to relate. The human experience is enough to create connections and there’s never any need to erase identities, even your own.

    Also, as a white person, the best thing you can do in conversations about race is to listen more than you talk. People of color are silenced too much in their every day lives. Avoid talking over your partner at all cost. That’s not to say that you should never speak on anything racial ever. You have to open yourself up to the possibility of being wrong. Let your partner know that she can check you if you ever say anything offensive. That’s the only way you’ll be able to learn and grow from it. I have several white friends who have said subtly racist comments and I’ve checked them on it. And the reason we are still friends is because they took a second, reflected, let me explain why what they said was wrong, apologized, and never made the same mistake again.

    I think if anyone understands how a group of people can become poisoned with a hateful mindset, it’s people of color. We’ve watched our families and communities succumb to the racist ideas of the white worldview until the point where we see our people hate themselves. I personally, as a queer woman of color, had a lot of obstacles to overcome before I could begin to understand how power works in this world. You have obstacles too. The only difference is that you benefit from the power structure that you must learn to understand.

    That brings me to my last point. You must read read read. You can’t rely on your partner to teach you because it’s very likely that any racial knowledge that she possesses wasn’t handed to her. There are plenty of resources on the internet, in libraries, and in films that can help you gain enough information to not be so nervous during discussions about race.


    Click through to read more about Kai and our other Second Opinions panelists!

    Don’t forget! Through Sept. 8th, every single pre-order for This is a Book for Parents of Gay Kids will be matched by our publisher, Chronicle Books, with a donated book to a local PFLAG Chapter!!!!

  • kristinnoeline:

    Happy 1st Anniversary to the human who keeps me putting one foot in front of the other, each and every day.



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  • Dearest Lovelies,

    We are going to be taking a mental vacation from Everyone Is Gay this week as we ready ourselves for what will likely be the busiest fall of our entire lives. (EEP!) We will be sharing some posts we love from The Parents Project with you in lieu of our regularly scheduled advice, and will return on Wednesday, September 3rd with all new words for your eyeballs!

    We love your heads and faces and hearts and cats,
    Dannielle & Kristin

    ps: Yes, that is our book wearing sunglasses floating on a raft in the ocean.

  • "How can I be my genuine self around people I feel like I should impress? I always feel like I need to impress everyone and I get all nervous and act kind of sarcastic and I don’t like it because I actually am nice."

    - Question submitted by Anonymous

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