OMG YOU ARE SO CUTE I CAN’T HANDLE YOU, COME HERE AND HUG ME NOW.
anyway… the best way to handle stuff like this is to make the people who are being assfarts feel dumb. If I were in your situation and someone said something bitchy to me i would fake laugh really hard and loud and make everyone super uncomfortable. BC if they’re like ‘what, are you gay or something?!’ and then you’re like “HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH” and then you just stop and look at them like ‘really?’ and then turn and walk away, people will laugh at them, they will feel dumb and they will probably not do it again.
Or if someone wrote “faggot” next to my name i would add “s are awesome” and then point and be like ‘WHO WROTE THAT’ when I clearly just wrote it…
I deal with everything through humor. If you don’t, the best thing you can do is look at the guy who says something and just say ‘seriously?’ and then shake your head at him, b/c he’s acting like a child.
High schoolers can be such assholes when they’re self-conscious. They take it out on everyone around them to feel better about themselves. Keep doing what you’re doing. You’re the fucking best and those jerks are not even half as cool as you are. I hope you get super famous and win an oscar, then in your speech you thank the dumb jocks that treated you like shit for making you realize it doesn’t matter what other people think.
Dannielle and I come from a very similar deal-with-assholes-through-humor camp…so that is also the approach I would suggest that you take. My process would be to think of as many stereotypes related to the assholes, and keep them in your vault for future conflicts. Robert Difasio elbows his pal Joe Bruno and says, ‘Check out that musical fag!’ You turn around and say, ‘I know, check me OUT right? Dude likes musicals, dude must like other dudes. Same way you must both love to dip your balls in marinara sauce.’ Then, you turn on your heels and walk to class.
Ultimately, this isn’t about the assholes. This is about you, and how you feel walking down the halls in your high school. You are obviously incredibly talented if you are playing the lead in Phantom of the Opera, and I am certain that within the theater department you have a whole gaggle of people who support you in all the things that make you who you are. The people who do theater are aware that their ability to perform does not determine their sexuality, so it is much easier for them to allow room for people who sing and like members of the opposite sex. Focus your energy on the people who love and support you, and keep doing what you do best.
The assholes may not leave you alone, but they are the ones who are going home at night and wondering why the fuck they are such huge assholes all the time. I know it is hard to believe, but when you respond to them or their actions in a way that says, “Are you for real?”…it affects them. They have brains and hearts and most of them likely have no fucking clue why they even CARE about what you are doing. Remind yourself every day that the reason they are cruel is because they are weaker than you are, and the hurt that they carry goes much deeper (so deep that most of them aren’t aware that it is even there). The more deeply we all understand that, the easier it is for us to walk with our heads held high, and to even uncover compassion for the fact that their insides are so completely confused and tangled.