-Question submitted by Anonymous

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Dannielle Says:

HAHAHAHHAH. I just want to say if my girlf was like ‘i just sleep naked with all my boyfrans and we shower together’ I would be like ‘NO YOU DON’T’… I would legit freak out. Naked people are naked people, regardless of whether or not your girlf wants to be having sexual body times with the naked people around her, SHE’S STILL NAKED WITH NAKED PEOPLE. That would make me sooooo uncomfortable. 

Now, I’m not saying she’s doing something wrong because I’m sure there are 400,000 people who are comfortable with their nudity around other nudities and they are in relationships with people who feel the exact same way. IF YOU ARE NOT THAT PERSON, that is totally okay. You have every right to voice your opinion and be like ‘i dont know why, but it makes me super uncomfortable that your ladybits are potentially touching other peoples genderbits and I absolutely trust you, but is there anyway you could maybe not do that as often?” …I don’t know, maybe she’ll freak out and think you’re trying to control her, maybe she’ll laugh and be like ‘i was messing with you’ and maybe she’ll be like ‘i promise i’m not cheating on you, it’s just quicker to all shower together’

You guys will have to handle your relaysh however is best for you, but please be honest with her about your feelings. If you don’t say anything all of your feelings will bubble up inside your head until one day you’re really pissed off because she ate your doritos and then you scream ‘WHATEVER YOU NAKED WEIRDO’ in front of everyone and then you’ll have to break up because you’re both so embarrassed. 

Kristin Says:

You guys. Ladybits and Genderbits should be the name of someone’s band. GET ON IT, PEOPLE. Then some else start a band called Kibbles n’ Bits and there can be a show where LADYBITS N GENDERBITS opens for KIBBLES N BITS.

Aaaaaanyway.

First off: Your girlfriend is not a lesbian just because she is comfortable being naked with other ladies.

Second off: You are obviously torn about this, and Dannielle is correct - this doesn’t have to be about NAKEDBITS (your gf) being wrong, but there needs to be a conversation where you say, “Hey, Nakedbits, I really care about you and I just wanted to tell you that, even though I don’t think it’s wrong, it makes me a little uncomfortable that your boobies are janglin’ around with the boobies of Cyndi and Stella (her friends).”

Third off: Compromise, compromise, compromise. It is not fair for you to demand that NAKEDBITS change the way that she interacts with her besties. You demanding she keep her clothes on is a little too extreme and will make her feel cornered. Naked does not equal Sexy. That said, your voice and concerns are valid because relationships are TWOWAYSTREETS, so perhaps just ask her about why she is comfortable naked and if it ever feels sexual, and if she wouldn’t mind throwing a shirt on at bedtime after communal naked bathtime.

You could also be like, “Being naked doesn’t mean anything to you? Me either! SEE YOU ALL IN THE SHOWER!!!!!”