-Question submitted by Anonymous

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DANNIELLE SAYS: 

TELL HER TO SLOW DOWN OR ELSE. 

I’m serious, I mean don’t yell it or type it in all caps, but yea, you need to have a talkie with her… Talkie is actually a movie where the actors talk… soooo… thats a history lesson within advice. 

SAY THIS: ‘hey i wanna slow this down because i actually REALLY like you and i don’t want anything to get messy by us just jumping right in’ 

Usually when you’re honest, sweet, and you don’t speak in all caps, people understand what you’re saying. Hopefully she’ll be understanding and you guys can figure out an awesome way to take things a little slower. I mean… how great is it when you make out with someone and then don’t see them for two days and FINALLY GET TO MAKE OUT AGAIN… it’s awesome. TRUST ME…ooooooor don’t trust me and try it out for yourself. 

Kristin Says:

DON’T TELL HER SHE IS MOVING TO FAST THERE ARE BETTER WAYS THAN JUST SHOUTING OMG:

It is important to think through your own feelings so that you know whether A) you really like her but you are overwhelmed about seeing too much of her and/or scared about a longer commitment or B) You are not that into her and she is way more into you. If we are dealing with #A, then you slow things down (SEE #1), you have some talks about your feelings (SEE #2), you check in with yourself and take it day by day (SEE #3). If we are dealing with #B, then you should probably not be seeing her OR you should at least be honest that your intentions are not to have a long-lasting relaysh.

#1: Make a schedule of when you see each other. Explain to her that you like her a lot and that you’ve moved too fast in the past #poetry and you want to do it right this time. See her three nights out of the week, and have the other four to yourselves. That’s every other night you guys… IT’S PLENTY OF TIME.

#2: When you talk to HER about your feelings, be sure to highlight that you care about HER, but that BECAUSE you care about her, you want to make sure you have enough time with YOU to process those feelings and navigate through them. Love is tricky. Everyone knows this. It need to be watered and fed and monitored and bandaged and cared for at varying stages. Also, talk to your friends and talk to yourself. Work forward through the feelings instead of running in the opposite direction.

#3 Check in with yourself and take it day by day. Seriously. Don’t think about what might happen in September. Think about today. 

ALSO OMG STOP SHOUTING IT NEVER GETS ANYTHING ACCOMPLISHED. BEEP BEEP.