Dannielle Says: 

One time I saw a coozie that said “Beauty is in the eye of the beer holder” … WHICH IS SO TRUE, YOU GUYS. 

Here’s the thing about attractiveness: it’s ridiculously subjective. The other day Kristin and I were watching the same thing and she was like ‘that girl is so cute” and I was like “she isn’t a hottie and you’re stupid” … Now, Kristin is not stupid (most days), and I am not an asshole for not being attracted to her. BUT AS YOU CAN SEE, we have differing opinions. You don’t need to worry about being stereotypically pretty bc GUESS WHAT, stereotypically pretty isn’t even pretty to some people. I, for example, do not think Megan Fox is hot -which is apparently a crime against humanity - but that’s just how my feelings feel… knowwhatimean? You need to be comfortable with you for you and you only #you

You sound pretty confident about who you are as a human, and you have no idea how important that is in a relationship. You’ll meet someone who laughs at everything you say, texts with you until 5 in the morning, thinks you are the coolest, loves to do all the things you do ANNNDD thinks you’re absolutely drop-dead gorgeous. You won’t meet that person by trying to change how you looks, you’ll meet them by embracing exactly who you are and recognizing there are different kinds of attractive and you are one of the kinds. 

Kristin Says:

Amen.

Stereotypically pretty is for the birds you guys. #grandmaphrases

If I made a list of the things that I found attractive in the women who I’ve been with over time, about zero of the things would align with what most of us hold in our brain as “pretty.” In the physical world, I’ve been all googly-eyed over things like how hair looks in a ponytail, that curve right where your arm meets your body, how a hip bone feels under skin, freckles atop a nose, eyeballs, hands, and mouths. I could make a longer list but a) THIS IS GETTING WEIRD and b) you get my point.

What turns us on and attracts us to other people is a combination of factors, and for a lot of us personality is a huge, huge component in how we view another person physically. Sure, if you never interact with a human and you look at a line-up of people, perhaps you would have some different means of gauging your attraction to them - but that ain’t how it works. You meet a person, you talk to them, you see them with eyes that are dependent on your brain and heart to interpret things. 

I think that you are attractive, having never seen you. You are confident in many aspects of yourself, and THAT is attractive. So, my advice would be to remind yourself that physical beauty means different things to different people, and that you have the ability to connect with someone (lots of someones, really) on an emotional and physical level - and to attract them, turn them on, and make them feel all melty inside.

Seriously.