-Question submitted by Anonymous

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Dannielle Says: 

psh. you’re askin the wrong fool. 

I hate this question bc like… for me, I kissed a girl and I was like ‘ok i like her i guess’ and i dated her… then i had a crush on a different girl later and i was like ‘oooh i like her a lot’ and then she didn’t like me and then i sorta liked someone I GUESS and i was like ‘whatev’ and then i was like ‘THAT GIRL’S PRETTY’ and then she broke me and then i was like ‘OH GIRL WHO DIDN’T LIKE ME BEFORE LIKES ME NOW’ and then was over and then i was like ‘HI SOMEONE ELSE UR NICE’ and then i was like ‘we’re better friends’ and then i was like ‘OH  BUT YOU ARE OKAY SORT OF’ … and before i knew it I had dated 9 girls and no boys.

So… i say i’m gay… BUT DOES THAT ALSO MEAN I’M NOT ALLOWED TO EVER DATE A BOY EVER BC WHAT IF CHANNING TATUM ASKS?!!? I don’t KNOOOOW anything bc no one knooowws anything. I just followed my heart and hoped for the best and I think i’ve done pretty well. 

Life is already hard enough, why do we have to spend time figuring out what we should be called?! I’m a Dannielle Owens-Reid. I’m nice, strong, cute, funny, i like to travel, and I wanna change the world. That’s what I know and that’s who I am. 

Kristin Says:

A-to-the-f*cking-MEN.

It’s like, once upon a time I thought, “maybe I should kiss a girl,” and so I was 15 and I kissed TWO girls on a dare and it was SO LAME and I hated everything and I called my two BFFs and was like, “YOU GUYS I JUST NEED YOU TO KNOW I KISSED TWO GIRLS AND IT WAS SO DUMB SO I’M STRAIGHT.”

Then I met this other girl who was pretty and I pretended that I wanted to teach her how to inhale cigarette smoke so that I could actually kiss her mouth and we kissed and made out and I had feelings for her and then I was like OMG I GUESS I LIKE HER and I told my parents I was bisexual and my mom was like “SAY WHAT?!” That made me feel like I had to fight to own my own sexuality, and after dating another girl and another girl I was like “SCREW ALL YOU HATERS I’M TOTALLY GAY.”

The thing was, about a decade later when I was in my twenties - no one was fighting me anymore. Once all the haters stopped hating I was like, “WHO AM I EVEN” and I thought this sous-chef at Craft Restaurant (where I worked) was the dreaaaaaamiest dream that I had ever seen.

Then he didn’t like me back and I dated a girl for five years and we were in love and we broke up and I made out with a boy and had a meltdown and choreographed a dance to a Jordin Sparks song and then fell in love again with another girl…

So like. I didn’t know. I knew in moments who I was and who I loved, and I trusted those feelings and went with them and learned about myself and others in the process. I’m a Kristin Russo and I like ice cream and I cry a lot but I have a strong heart and I like to believe in the goodness of others. That’s all I got.