Dannielle Says: 

one. 

IF YOU’RE ME. You guys, I’m the most ridiculous human. The only reason i’m even gay is because some girl kissed me and i was like ‘THIS MEANS WE ARE DATING’ … you know?

This is totally different for every person. I had a friend who hooked up with the same person and no one else for two years and if you said they were dating they would have laughed you off the face of the planet.

Check in with yourself. Know that it’s totally okay to want to date the person you’re hooking up with and then TALK TO THEM. Either (1) they’ll be like ‘omg i was feeling the same way lets do this’ and you’ll be like EEEEE or (2) they’ll be like ‘ohh but i kind of enjoy hooking up with no labels’ and you’ll be in the exact same position you are now. You literally have nothing to lose. SO, follow your loins and follow your heart. If you feel googley and want to be buying flowers for your hookupbuddy, go for it. I HAVE FAITH IN YOUR SIXTH SENSE. 

Kristin Says:

five.

IF YOU’RE ME. 

The lesson here is obviously that there is no magic make-out number that pushes you over the dating threshold. I do think, though, that showing up with flowers and a name tag that says “Mrs. THEIRLASTNAME” on your jacket after one kiss is probably a little too fast.

If you aren’t into dating, then I would suggest casually tossing that into conversation after make-out session three or four. Key word here is casually. Don’t look the person in the eye and scream “I WILL NOT DATE YOU, I WILL NOT!” That will never go over well.

If you are totally wanting to date all over this person, then I would again go the route of subtlety. Perhaps you hold their hand while you watch Pitch Perfect after make-out session number four. Perhaps you ask them if they’d like to have exclusive rights to your lips during make-out session number five.

We all have different numbers, but being upfront about these things is a much easier way to find out what kind of relationship you are seeking. Also, if this question is about me and we have made out five times, we are dating. No need to ask.

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