-Question submitted by Anonymous

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Dannielle Says: 

I mean, unless you’re literally in the middle of DOING THE DEED, i think it’s pretty easy to ask your booboo to take it slowly. 

Maybe it feels weird, but the fact of the matter is, you don’t wanna jump right into boner-town because you really like this relationship you are potentially building and THAT IS A WONDERFUL THING. If i was trying to get frisky with someone and they were like ‘hey, can we slow down a little bit? I like you a lot and i just wanna see where we go before we swap boners’ I would SWOON. 

I think it’s the greatest thing. I ALSO KNOW THAT it’s weird to stop in the middle of making out hardcore BUT i want to encourage you to do so by yelling something fun like ‘NO EGGS IN THIS BASKET’ or ‘LEAVE ROOM FOR JESUS’ or ‘WE’RE NOT IN KANSAS ANYMORE’ … all of these things should stop your boo right in their tracks and make them go ‘wha?’ which is the perfect way to start a conversation. 

Kristin Says:

Omg. I cannot wait to shout “No eggs in this basket” at my next potential suitor.

Moving on… I agree with Dannielle. None of us should be afraid to speak our minds and our hearts and our desires with another human being. What’s more, if this is a human that you are swooning over, chances are they are swooning right back and are going to be thrilled that you have thoughts and opinions to share on the matter.

When I entered into my last relationship, I was basically yanking off all of my clothes as quickly as possible. The person I was dating, however, was like, “Hey, I totally want to do all of those things, but I think we should wait a bit. However, can we PLEASE continue to make-out?!”

YOU GUYS.

THE MAKING OUT WAS THE BEST MAKING OUT IN ALL THE WORLD, EVER EVER.

Say exactly what you are thinking! Just highlight the fact that you are totally into mashing mouths and having fun, but you’d like to take it slow - and that from your experience, taking it slow makes the journey even more enjoyable. If your boo gives you an attitude, they can hit the curb. There are plenty of us out here who will party with you in make-out-ville until you are good and ready for more.

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