Dannielle Says: 

I hate to burst your ‘cheating is okay after you apologize’ bubble, but it probably won’t be okay for a while. 

I bet you just thought to yourself ‘wow, dannielle just got REAL bitch-mouth on me’ BUT you guys, hear me out. You literally disrespected everything about your relationship with him and can NOT expect things to be okay immediately. Unfortunately(?), relationships are about compromise and you crossed the line so now it is your job to compromise with him. You have to do everything in your power to gain back his trust. If  you understand his POV, you shouldn’t even think twice about it. I mean, srsly, put yourself in his shoes…How would you feel?

This isn’t hard you guys, if you fuck around on your boo, you don’t hang out with the person you fucked around with. That’s just common sense. I get it, she’s your best friend, but not anymore, now she’s the girl you hooked up with. You have to take a step back and prioritize some things. 

MAYBE IN THE FUTURE (via ingrid michaelson) it’ll all BE OK BE OK BE OK (via ingrid michaelson) but you SORT OF (via ingrid michaelson) have to be patient and understanding and wait it out, maybe even until DECEMBER BABY (via ingrid michaelson)

Kristin Says:

Yeahhhhh soooo, Dannielle and Ingrid are 100% right on this one.  

You broke your boo’s trust, plain and simple.  It is wonderful that you love him more than ever and that you want to put all the pieces back together again, but that takes time and patience and flexibility.  The way to get back to chillville is by asking your boyfriend what he needs, listening, and doing everything you can to make that a reality for him.

If he says that he needs you to not see your bestie for a few weeks so that he can just calm the fuck down, take a deep breath and understand that the planet won’t fall to pieces in 21 days.  Tell him that you love you best friend and that she is always going to be a part of your life, but that because you were the one who dropped the giant ball of cheat on his toes, you want to make that process as easy as possible.

Right now your boyfriend, I am sure, feels like he has lost his part of control in the relationship.  Do more for him than you think is necessary, and explain to your best friend that everything you are doing for the next few weeks or months or whatever is so that you can be a part of her life while still having a healthy relationship.

Everyone will KEEP BREATHING (via ingrid michaelson) and your boyfriend will start to feel less like he has been thrown OVERBOARD (via ingrid michaelson), as long as you take our advice, STARTING NOW (via ingridmichaelson).