Dannielle Says:

{since I’m more tumblr savvy than Kristin, I deleted the question where you asked the exact same thing and pretended you were asking about a friend, which btw…this is anonymous…sooooooo}

MOVING ON…I want to start by saying if you like to put your mouth on a girls “ay-oh!” you’re not straight, so don’t worry. Also, some people think about way creepier things, like dead people, and squirrels, and girls with no teeth and scrunchies. Some people think about their grocery lists and empty beer cans. Some people think about celebs and cartoons. Some people think about boiz (eeeee!!!!)

…see how not big of deal that is? Don’t freak out just because you’re fantasizing about getting pounded by a greased up macho Fabio-type (SICK). Everyone has a THING, and it is totally possible this is just your THING. 

Kristin Says:

I’m going to do my best to answer this without using the word penetration BECAUSE IT MAKES ME GAG, but Dannielle’s alternative, “pounded,” is equally disturbing.  So bear with me as I try to get all Dr. Ruth on this shit:

Some people have penises and others have vaginas.  Some girls like the way penises feel in their vaginas, some girls like their partners to HAVE vaginas, but also still like the idea of a penis in their vagina, and some girls think about having their own penis to put in other girls’ vaginas.  There are about a million other combinations of things both related and unrelated to penises and vaginas (see earlier squirrel/beer can discussion), and none of them really have to mean that you are strictly gay or straight, see?  If thinking about penises makes you happy, HAVE AT IT. It doesn’t negate your attraction to your girlfriend in the least, and it certainly doesn’t define your sexuality.

Also, if it’s a “greased up macho Fabio-type” that you are fantasizing about, we need to address a whole separate set of issues.

(Really, Dannielle?! FABIO?!)

Dannielle Says:

NO.

Kristin Says:

YES.

Dannielle Says:

Your attraction to girls doesn’t have to be labeled right away, so don’t worry about if you’re bisexi or lesbisexi. Just feel what you feel. Don’t force anything because you feel like you need to declare yourself, and don’t NOT get into a relaysh with a girl just because you haven’t been in a relaysh with boi. 

Figuring yourself out is super difficult, and it doesn’t happen over night, so don’t be afraid to give yourself some time and (i can’t believe i’m saying this) experiment. You won’t know if you like kissing girls or boiz until you try kissing girls and boiz. OMG WHO AM I…but really. Being an insane college kid who made out with everyone (i don’t even drink you guys) made me realize I like making out with boiz and girls, but I really only like relaysh’s with gurlz. I also have friends who liked girls in college and for a few years after, but now they’re more into boiz. The point is, you are forever changing, so don’t feel like you need to be nailed down to one or the other, or even in between. Just like someone when you like them, regardless of sexi, you’ll figure that out along the way.

Kristin Says:

Dannielle, how am I supposed to understand you when you throw endless amounts of confusing words at me. WHAT IS LESBISEXI? WHY DO YOU SAY BOI AND NOT BOY? WHAT IS DASHBOARD CONFESSIONAL? YOU LIKE MAKING OUT WITH BOIZ?!

I am sorry, anonymous.  I had to get that off my chest.  Despite the screaming words of hate I just threw at Dannielle, I agree with what she has to say…or at least the parts that I understand.  There is no need to go digging in the minefield of your brain to try and come to a final decision on whether you are a lesbian, bisexual, etc…you just need to know what makes you happy, and go after that.  AKA: Go kiss a girl!