Dannielle Says:

BUTTT IIII’VE GOT BAAAAAAGGAGE EMOTIONAL BAAAAAAGGGAGE A PLANE LOAD OF DRAAAGAGE THAT CAUSES MUCH SAAAAAAGAGE *EVERYBODY* WE’VE GOT BAGGGGAGE… 

That was a quote from one my favorite off-broadway musicals I LOVE YOU, YOU’RE PERFECT, NOW CHANGE. 

Everyone has baggage you guys. We all have different bags with different handles, but we all have it. My baggage comes in the form of crying for 3 hours straight after seeing Country Strong and not saying a single word. Your baggage may come in the form of you saying everything that’s gone wrong in your life within the first week of knowing me. And that makes us different…and that is OKAY.

You guys, we’re all going through life, we all get fucked over, we all make really shitty mistakes, we all keep it inside, we all explode, we all cry hysterically, we all can’t breathe sometimes, we all feel like a waste of space, we all can’t be in a good relationship…until we can. Does that make sense? When she/you/we is/are ready to be awesome in an awesome relationship, she/you/we will be. And it will be awesome. 

If you like her, you like her, keep liking her…don’t decide she has too many issues before you’ve even given her a chance…you don’t know the details, and like, what if you’re supposed to spend your life with her and you totally miss out bc you’re like ‘she’s dramatic…’ 

you know?

Kristin Says:

Well here is a great example of a question that we just can’t really answer for you, Anonymous.  It’s like…when I like a girl I like the girl because I like the girl, and if she comes with some stuff that is built up from living this crazy life, it doesn’t typically phase me because I just need to have the girl.

I would never be able to use logical reasoning in the first stages of falling for someone, which is why falling for someone is so nutty.  Actually.  Let me rephrase that…because I would probably be able to use my logic to not get involved with someone who was a heroin user, or who beat their kids, or who thought that white people were better than black people.  I am assuming, however, that by “baggage,” you mean that this girl isn’t emotionally perfect and that you are unsure about how that will fit with you.

So, even though I said before that I couldn’t tell you what to do, I am going to now tell you what to do.  Kiss her face and kiss her face real good, and then get all wobbly kneed and go on a few dates and maybe even touch her boobs or WHATEVER.  If, as you start to get to know her more, her emotional shit is dragging you down, THAT is when you have to take a step back and assess the situation.  Talk to her about your concerns.  Maybe she will want to talk it out with you and try to make it work, maybe she will fly into a rage and break all of your Precious Moments figurines that your grandma gave you…you won’t know until you are there, and if she breaks your figurines you have to be strong and FIGURINE HER OUT OF THE PICTURE. #dumbjokewednesday

Seriously though.  It’s like…if you KNOW this girl is totally not good for you already, then don’t even ask us the question.  Don’t get involved.  If you really like her and you have concerns, though, just take it one step at a time.

Okay? Okay.